Debunking erroneous notions and confronting sexual violence
Let’s try and
debunk each of these notions
Victim Blaming: Let’s ignore the
sexual aspect of the crime and focus on crime in general. Do we blame high end diamond
jewelry shops for displaying their valuables at their store windows and
tempting potential thieves? Do we blame the victims of a terrorist act for
being at certain location or being of a certain nationality or race or religion
because the terrorist claims them as the motives behind the attack? Do we blame
a murder victim for tempting a serial killer by fitting category of human
beings that he abhors? Why then do we blame the victim of sex crimes if for all
other we only blame the perpetrators?
For the ravenous news media who cannot get the culprit on camera, the victim blamer is a great substitute villain. This villain can be used as a launch pad for another shout fest. People at home can feel that their apathy is better than the attitude of the victim blamer. For fellow victim blamers, they see a famous person doing it and think “Well I guess we are ok”.
For the ravenous news media who cannot get the culprit on camera, the victim blamer is a great substitute villain. This villain can be used as a launch pad for another shout fest. People at home can feel that their apathy is better than the attitude of the victim blamer. For fellow victim blamers, they see a famous person doing it and think “Well I guess we are ok”.
The rule is rather simple, for all
crimes, the burden of the criminal act lies solely on the perpetrator and nobody
else. The blaming of the victim is actually legitimizing the abhorrent act and
the depraved perspective of the perpetrator. Victim-blaming also cause the
victim to feel marginalized and serves as a deterrent from report the crime. One
less crime reported only means that the perpetrator is free to strike again and
again.
Blaming it on Patriarchy
and Culture for sexism: The biggest mistake to make is to conflate culture or
patriarchy or misogyny with sexual violence. Having a repugnant attitude that
women are inferior beings may be innate in people, perhaps some women hold this
opinion. But acts of sexual violence, are not about attitudes, it is about an individual’s
subjecting themselves on another individual without consent and deriving perverse
pleasure from this forced interaction. You cannot teach a human to be
empathetic to the plight of other human beings, it is usually innate. You do
not need commandments to tell you that you will not hurt another human being or
animal. Most self-respecting people won’t like to subject themselves to another
human being without interest from the other side no matter what the interaction
is. This is irrespective of background, culture, economics background and
religion, it is just plain, simple and unadulterated human decency. The
mentality of a perpetrator of sexual violence is no different than that of a
murderer. It is unadulterated barbarism and nothing more.
Blaming it on
entertainment: If movie were so impactful, the film Gandhi would have compelled
all its viewers to renounced violence. Superhero films would have compelled
viewers to help all those in peril. The fact remains that if a criminal claims
to have been influenced by a film, it is because there was always a monster
within and the material on screens just aroused the monster. If we start
censoring the arts for the fear that somebody may be aroused to commit acts of violence,
all we would be left with is a blank canvas.
Blaming it on Sexual
Repression: Sex is supposed to be an act of pleasure. You give pleasure you
take pleasure and you probably even create a life. If an individual is sexually
frustrated or repressed there are several avenues for instant gratification. Most
people fail to realize that acts of sexual violence such as rape are do not
just involve sexual intercourse but often brutal battery to coerce victim into
submission. This is about a monster seeking pleasure in the degradation and
pain of another. This is not about sex it is about exerting power and subjecting
humiliation.
Euphemism:
The greatest disservice toward the victim is to use euphemistic terms for a
crime. If we do not use “forcible recovery of items” for theft and “forcible
dispatch of life” for murder. We must call it what it is, i.e. rape or sexual
assault or sexual violence. Words such as ‘molestation’ and ‘abuse’ reduce the
magnitude of the act.
How then do
we deal with incidences of sex crimes that seem to be on the rise?
Enforcement
of Tough Laws: While theoreticians may prescribe psychiatry to ‘heal’
perpetrators’ so they can rejoin society, it is too much of a risk for potential
victims. The only way is to possibly deter crimes from happening enforce
existing laws that dictate tough punishments for the guilty. It is important to have a fair hearing, but it is
equally essential that the proceedings are swift. Where the perpetrator is
never allowed to be free again.
Sensitivity
for the Victim: Many a times during investigations, the victim is subjected to questions and examinations in that leads to discomfort and a feeling of humiliation. This can deter the other victims from coming forward. The good news is that there have been plenty of cases where the police and
authorities have shown great sensitivity towards the victim. But it is
important that the same be shown by the media and the public. It is this
sensitivity that will empower the victim to not feel shame or guilt for being
attacked and come forward.
Dealing with
Victim blamers: You cannot punish anybody for their views, hence the best way to deal with the victim blamers is to ignore their statements. Publicity is the oxygen that these low lives thrive on, ignoring their foolish notions is perhaps the only solution in addition. The moment they feel like a barking junk yard they probably will stop. Confronting them may also help but there is little hope that it will change their regressive mindset and once again they get the attention they want.
Treating Mental
Health: It is equally important that mental health is considered equally
important to physical health and is regularly evaluated. All acts of sexual
violence are related to always psychiatric disorders. Hence if this can be
caught earlier, it may prevent the occurrence of incidences of violence and
punishment for the perpetrators.
Self Defense
Training for potential victims: Since it is impossible for law enforcement to
be around every time a crime occurs, training ladies for self-defense may be a
great idea. Here the potential victim must be taught how to disable potential perpetrators.
Items such as pepper spray or pen knives may be part of the essential self defence kit.
Education:
This also highlights the importance of sex education even for the very young. On
many occasions the young victims of sexual crimes are unaware of their rights
and what is and is not permissive. The perpetrators could be figures of authority
and hence there may be hesitation to report these crimes. Parents, relative,
authorities and teachers must come together to make victims of all ages feel
empowered to educate potential victims about the nature of crimes and how they
can protect themselves from crimes. This will also make the victim feel
empowered to report a crime when it has occurred.
Define Sexual
Violence: As abominable as it might be, passing lewd comments, telling dirty
jokes or flirting or staring cannot be construed as sexual violence. All of
these can be remedied by telling the individual to ‘stop’. Calling every word
or act that is even remotely sexist as an act of sexual violence or expanding
the definition of sexual violence just results in the wolf cry syndrome.
Because if everything is sexual violence, nothing is sexual violence. While it
is important for all of us to be sensitive, being oversensitive can only cause
the real victims to be ignored. But it has to be simple, unless there is
physical violence or the threat of physical violence is involved.
Stop False
Accusations: As important as it is to punish the victim, it is important to
protect the innocent. There have been plenty of cases where false rape cases
have destroyed the reputation of individuals and ended their lives. It is very
important that no matter how much things appear that the accused gets a fair
trial. The media and the public need to be cautious not to hold a kangaroo
court and pronounce guilt before the courts have done so
In the end, conducting
discussions, holding forums and having studying the nature of sexual crimes may
work as a theoretical exercise. Candle light marches and speeches may work as
an exercise enlighten people. But the perpetrators here are monsters and only
tough measure can work as a remedy and a deterrent.
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